Life Lessons I Learned As I Turn A Year Older
Here’s my very first personal blog post for 2018! Two weeks ago, I turned a year older (and hopefully wiser lol). I decided to jot down personal life lessons (and summarized it to 10) that can hopefully inspire and help you surpass life challenges you might be facing right now. Composing this blog post allowed me to look back and reflect on life experiences making me appreciate them even more. Experience is the best teacher after all!
1. You don’t need to explain yourself when you’re with true friends.
As we grow older, we meet different kinds of people and reunite with our childhood friends. No matter what situation you’re in, true friends will always be there to support and listen to what you have to say. It’s best to have few but true friends, because these are the type of people who don’t need explanation. They choose you for who you are and not for what they can benefit from you.
2. You can’t please everyone.
It’s impossible to please everyone. Avoid being exceptionally nice just to fit in or gain favors from the people around you. If you know what you want, do what you love, you will feel accomplished and won’t need anyone to define your self-worth.
3. More time with the family.
As we grow older, we shouldn’t forget that our parents are getting older too. Living in a fast-paced world gives us more reason to spend more quality time with our family. On days when I don’t have events, I always make sure to have dinner at home with the family or join family gatherings/outings. I may have protective parents but I don’t regret following their rules or listening to their suggestions whenever I have to make decisions. My friends would know that I need to do a LOT of convincing before my parents (specially my dad) will allow me to go on out of town/country trips with friends. Lol.
4. People have different lives, different journey.
As cliché as it may sound, we should mind our own business. Everyone has a story you know nothing about so it’s best not to judge or compare. Things that work for you might not work for them and vice versa.
5. Health is wealth.
No matter how busy you may be, make sure to get enough sleep, eat healthy and exercise. Last 2014, I got admitted to the hospital due to severe cough that developed into pneumonia. I was stuck in the hospital for 10 days because medication has to be via IV. I got the chance to reflect on life and how health is the most important thing above all else. No matter how difficult your project or how bored you may be, at the end of the day we should be thankful for the gift of good health. Never take our health for granted because no matter how rich or famous you may be, when you’re unhealthy you can’t enjoy life to the fullest.
6. Be authentic, be organic.
Be yourself and everything will fall in place. In this day and age wherein social media has become life’s open book, we are free to share whatever we want and present ourselves according to how we want other people to see us. Instead of trying to compete with your friends online, why not try to be as authentic as possible and gain friends or followers who like you for who you really are, online or offline.
7. It’s okay to be rejected.
In life, we may experience rejection. It may be a rejected job application, a declined business proposal or having to deal with rejection in relationships. These things happen for a reason. We shouldn’t feel hopeless; but instead reflect on what can make you better, open your mind and move on. These rejections give way to better opportunities.
8. Save save save
It’s fulfilling to own a highly-coveted fashion item but it’s more fulfilling to know that your investment doubled in just a few months. What I’m trying to say is, saving for the future is something we should never forget. It doesn’t mean you should quit shopping or travelling. Save first, know your priorities and then spend. I’m sure it’s one of the things your future self will thank you for.
9. Don’t hurry, enjoy life.
If you’re on the same boat as I am wherein a lot of friends are getting married and people tend to always ask you “when are you getting married”, don’t be pressured. People have different priorities and goals in life. As I’ve mentioned earlier, things that works for you might not work for them and vice versa. As Natalie Brooke posted on Huffpost, getting married is not an accomplishment, it’s an experience. Rushing things due to peer pressure can cause you to make wrong decisions in life. In whatever aspect in life, appreciate each moment and don’t rush things because what’s meant to be will always find a way.
10. Live for yourself, not for others.
It’s okay to ask for advice from family and friends but at the end of the day, you make the final decision. Whatever decision you have to make in life, always consider your life goals and what makes you happy. Don’t let other people dictate or control you because they don’t know your journey. Whatever decision you make, you’ll be the one to face the consequence, not them.
Wearing: Promod top, Uniqlo culottes, Annie & Lori flats and Alberto bag